Thanks to Lunabelle, the ninja sexologist, I get to join this awesome writing process blog tour. I’ve been enjoying reading everyone’s stories about writing. It’s cool to see how we all get these posts out into the world.
First Off: What am I working on?
In terms of reviews, I have a whole line up I’m still working on thanks to Tantus, Burlesque Toys, Rocks-Off, and Cleis Press. Non-review related, there’s an entire spreadsheet full of ideas and notes for posts I have yet to check off. I have a day job writing for a sex toy shop, so there’s always that. I’m also training to be a sex educator, and although that is a lifetime learning project, I will complete my official “training” this coming weekend.
Nursing school is another exciting adventure I’m about to embark on in June. I have no doubt that my blog writing will change. Everyone says nursing school means falling off of the face of the earth and spending more time with textbooks than partners/sex toys. I’m hoping to queue up a few posts so I won’t get toooo behind.
How does my work differ from others of its genre?
Sex blogging is full of space and opportunity. My perspective, preferences, and body will speak to some and not others. Similar to book and movie reviews, it’s important to read more than one. All of us sex bloggers can be a unique and important part of the community by being ourselves and writing well.
I try to stay true to my own feelings on a product. Ideally I want to make my perspective clear, but also leave room for people who may have different preferences to still get something out of my review.
My blog didn’t start out as a review blog, but has slowly been more and more on that theme. I would like to concentrate on separating out my review posts with other sex-positive-health-conscious posts. I can also get pretty emotional.
Why do I like what I do?
Many people can be intimately connected to their bodies and the topic of sex. It is a charged subject that can bring out defensiveness, cheerleading, judgement, excitement, etc. Despite sex weighing so heavily on our personal lives, there are not many safe and accessible spaces for objective information, education, and empathy. The more accurate and safe resources we can create on the internet, the more we’ll know and the better off we will be when it comes to sex. I want to work to continue being able to support and create these spaces.
How does my writing process work?
Many small parts contribute to the whole. I have lots of mental notes at first. Possibly forming some potential sentences. Then the actual written notes come. Sometimes just words, not even full phrases.
Sometimes my mind is completely blank on a subject. I have to force myself to sit down and start writing. That’s where the magic and the flow happens. Most of my writing comes from forcing myself to just start writing. I have to move past any anxiety I might feel about not knowing what to say and just say something. My process isn’t at all linear.
And I edit. A lot. I go over a review so many times, rearranging structure, adding, and deleting words and sentences (yes, deleting, because I’m always typing). I’ve learned that I cannot commit to any sentence or else it will hinder the potential of what my post could be.
Now to pass this blog tour along…
(I apologize if you’ve already been selected and I was just oblivious to it.)