Just about forever ago, I posted a Spotlight on Sex and Metal Floggers. I thought they were pretty nifty and was quite covetous. So, you can imagine my excitement when Sex and Metal contacted me about reviewing something for them. Of course, I considered requesting The Box, but it looks awful crampy. Ok, that was a fib. I immediately knew I wanted to review a flogger. With so many options, it was a serious challenge settling on one, but I finally decided to go with the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger.
For those of you who are not familiar with floggers, they are devices often used in BDSM play, and still used as a punishment in some countries outside the United States. As opposed to whips, which are commonly made with a single tail (think Indiana Jones), floggers generally consist of multiple tails.
Floggers come in all sorts of sizes and different materials. The Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger is the most beautiful example of a flogger I have ever seen. Granted, I am not an expert on floggers, but I’ve handled more than a few and the Mea Culpa is truly exquisite.
Mea Culpa means “through my fault” in Latin, which is a particularly appropriate name for what most would consider a punishment implement. There are pain sluts out there who would say being flogged is a reward rather than a punishment, but not being one of them, I can appreciate the name.
The handle of the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger is made of raw steel and comes in either powder coated Candy Apple Red or Natural Steel. While I love the look of the natural steel and prefer some of Sex and Metal’s handles that way, I’m a sucker for bright colors and was hoping the twisted steel strands would stand out and look great in the Candy Apple Red. I am pleased to say they do. As you can see from the included images (which do not do the flogger justice), the handle of the Mea Culpa has a large ball at its end and is wrapped with a spiral of three twined strands of steel. There are two not so little spikes right above the spot where the fall attaches to the handle. The spikes are slightly sharp but you’d have to work hard to get them to cut skin. As far as the twisted strands around the handle go, I have no idea how they make the steel do that. My navel piercing is made of stainless steel and it requires a pair of pliers and two people to pry it open.
I’m pretty sure the handle is hollow or it would weigh more than its already hefty 10.5 ounces. The entire Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger only weighs 13.5 ounces, so that gives you an idea of how substantial the steel handle is. However, at 9″ in length and 1.91″ in diameter, the weight is spread over a fair amount of space making it evenly balanced, which is important for the wielder of the flogger. I have been having a significant amount of neck pain recently and without really paying attention to what I was doing, I randomly started rolling the handle of the Mea Culpa Flogger against my neck. While this is certainly not the intended use, it makes a pretty good neck massager in a pinch.
As with most of the impact toys on the Sex and Metal website, the Mea Culpa Flogger has two different fall options. You can select vegan silicone in black or white or traditional leather. You can also go with a Snap Dragon or Dragon Tongue fall. I have the traditional black leather fall and must say it is very impressive. In my experience, many floggers are made with crappy leather falls. After all, leather is pricey and it’s not like a flogger is a pair of shoes or anything, right? While this is true, the quality of the leather used in the fabrication of the fall makes a big difference.
If you have had the experience of using one of these crappy leather floggers, as well as the chance to handle a high quality one, you know what I mean. Flogging is not just about pain. For some people it isn’t about pain at all. It is about sensation, how the tails feel as they slide along your skin, either before or after you feel their sting. They can feel soft and soothing on tender skin, just as they can feel harsh and biting. My skin is sensitive and I really can tell the difference between contrasting types of leathers. When you’re hit with a low quality leather flogger you’re missing out on some of the best parts of being flogged.
The leather strands of the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger are great. They are approximately .5″ wide, soft and supple, thin and pliant. There is a subtle contrast between the coolness of external leather and the warmth of the internal suede of each strand. Though I can easily feel the difference with my fingers, I really can’t parse it out when the strands hit my skin. I don’t need to though, as the combination creates an amazing sensation overall. Of course, this is when the strands of the Mea Culpa Flogger are dragged along my skin. It’s not quite the same when there is actual flogging happening.
The Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger produces that marvelous THWACK when the strands slap against my body. This is one of the things I enjoy most about floggers, that heavy, thuddy feeling of the, in this case leather, striking my back and my butt. (Which is not to say you can’t go about flogging people on other bits of their bodies, of course.) Then there is the sharp sting of the tips of those leather strands that follows a moment later. It’s a veritable cornucopia of sensation. Obviously, the person swinging the Mea Culpa Flogger has control over how much pain to administer to the receiver. Or as I like to refer to myself, the floggee (Just because it’s not a word doesn’t mean I can’t use it.). The size and quality of the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger give you the freedom to control the amount of the pain and the sensations depending upon how you use it.
The 20 leather strands of the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger are 22″ long, so finding a place to store it, especially after use, has been a bit tricky. I don’t want to squash the fall. Haven’t figured out a way to hang it yet, though maybe I can use the spikes somehow… Not that I actually have a place to hang it. Sigh. What I really need is a giant locking cupboard where I can store all my gear safely, so as not to damage any of it.
In general, we all know not to get to leather wet. (Which reminds me of a great Jerry Seinfeld bit about cows stuck out in the rain, banging on the farmer’s door crying, “Let us in! We’re all wearing leather! Open the door! We’re going to ruin the whole outfit here!”) Oftentimes during a flogging session, the leather tails will be dampened by sweat. When this happens, hang the Mea Culpa Flogger in a well-ventilated area and allow it to air dry. Don’t ever stick it in a drawer or a tightly closed closet when it’s wet. That could damage the leather strands of the flogger.
The only complaint I have about the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger is that the leather sheds. Little teeny tiny black bits of leather fly off and attach to EVERYTHING, my couch, sheets, clothes, skin. I think it’s even in my ears. However, I do not fault Sex and Metal or the flogger itself. I have usually experienced shedding when dealing with raw-edged, good quality leather. As I have mentioned, I have used crappy floggers. I have also used floggers that had coated leather strands. I have not experienced these types of floggers shedding. I have also not enjoyed using them nearly as much as my Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger. So, I can live with little black leather bits all over the house. It’s a sacrifice I am willing to make.
Something to keep in mind about Sex and Metal impact toys, as well as their other products, is that each item is handmade so every single piece is unique. When you purchase your Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger, it will not be exactly the same as mine. As someone who also makes things by hand (have you checked out my jewelry shop, Pineapple Sunset?), I really appreciate the value of owning an original work of art. You may think I’m hyperbolizing (it is too a word!). After all, it’s just a flogger. However, when someone puts their time and energy into handcrafting something, it truly is a work of art, regardless of what it is.
The packaging for the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger is super basic. It came in a sealed clear plastic bag, which I find totally sufficient. You generally are not going to keep a flogger squinched up in a box (with some exceptions), especially right after using it. You want those leather strands to be free. You may take their lives, but you will never take….their freedom! So, the plastic bag is fine to protect the Mea Culpa Flogger in transit. Shipping is very discreet. My flogger arrived in a plain brown box with no hint of what was inside.
Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger Pros:
• Perfectly weighted handle
• High quality leather
• Well made
• Gorgeous and evil looking
• Handle can be used as a neck massager
Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger Cons:
• Might be heavy for those with hand issues
I realize I have basically raved about the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger throughout this review. That’s because it’s basically awesome. It is well made with high quality materials, is supremely effective at what it is meant to do, and is gorgeous. The balanced handle is comfortable to hold and easy to manipulate. That being said, it is on the heavy side (it’s metal, after all) and may be too much for someone with serious hand/wrist troubles. I don’t have a problem with it, but my issue is pain and it’s inconsistent. I’m also not flogging anyone for a significant length of time, being the one who is generally on the receiving end of the flogging.
99% of the time I review products that are mass produced. I’m not complaining, merely pointing it out. So, when I have the opportunity to evaluate a product that is handmade, it is such a pleasure, especially when it is as well done as the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger. The quality of the craftsmanship is evident in every inch of the flogger. With good care, I fully expect it to stand the test of time. Not only that, but it is a beautifully handcrafted objet d’art.
I know I complained about the leather strands shedding all over the place. The reason I didn’t list this as a con is because, as I also mentioned, this has been my experience with other products that use raw-edged high quality leather. As this is the nature of the material, I can’t very well fault Sex and Metal for using high quality components.
All in all, I really can’t say enough good things about the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger. I don’t consider myself a “ravey” reviewer who says everything is “wonderful and fabulous and the best thing ever!!” However, the raving in this case is well-deserved.
This is a very good time to check out Sex and Metal because the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger, as well as many other items, are currently on sale. Along with the leather fall options, they also offer vegan silicone falls. They provide free shipping within the U.S. with a $69+ purchase. In addition, Sex and Metal can do custom orders, on the off chance you’d like to try your hand at designing a BDSM implement.