Toward the end of the summer (though not the miserably hot weather in my area), I reviewed the Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger, which was my first product from Sex and Metal. When I received a surprise shipment from them, I was curious and excited. I opened the plain, brown box to discover the gorgeous Sex and Metal Titan Whip.
Like its sibling, the Mea Culpa Flogger, the Sex and Metal Titan Whip was handmade by the expert artisans at Sex and Metal. When you look at the images below, you will see significant differences between the two impact toys, though both would be commonly used in BDSM play.
I’ll be the first to admit I have very little experience with whips, other than pretending to be a cowboy when I was younger. (Girls can too be cowboys!) Of course, those whips are very different from the Sex and Metal Titan Whip, with its Dragons Tongue fall. A Dragons Tongue is made by taking a piece of silicone (or leather) and rolling it up into a tube shape terminating in a pointy end.
The other end of the cylinder is secured within the handle of the Titan Whip with two spikes (which really add to the aesthetic of Sex and Metal whips and floggers), one on either side. The silicone piece is wrapped very tightly, such that the part of the tube attached to the handle is quite firm. The Dragons Tongue fall is so rigid that it stands up on its own and only begins to droop a bit towards the pointed end. `
The handle of my Sex and Metal Titan Whip is made from powder coated raw steel in a vivd Candy Apple Red, though it is also available in plain old shiny raw steel, if you prefer. It is 9″ long and has a large round steel ball at its base. Due to the three sections of tightly twisted steel strands wrapped around and welded equidistant along its length, I do not recommend inserting the Titan’s handle into your body (or anyone else’s, obviously). The ball at the base is also welded to the handle, but the spikes at the point where the handle meets the silicone Dragons Tongue are not.
All of the welded bits are easily seen, but as the Sex and Metal Titan Whip is not a mass-produced, machined product, that is to be expected. These areas do not detract from the beauty of the handle. When an item is handmade, there are always small imperfections that make it unique and stand out from other pieces. Ask any jewelry maker.
As with the Mea Culpa Flogger, the handle of the Titan Whip is heavy. When you take into account that the silicone Dragons Tongue weighs more than the leather fall of the flogger, it is even more noticeable. My old, crappy scale (It belonged to my great-aunt and has sentimental value, so back off.) clocked the Mea Culpa at approximately 13.5 ounces and the Titan Whip at just under 16 ounces, which does not seem significant. Yet holding the flogger in one hand and the whip in the other, I easily feel the difference.
The hefty weight of the Sex and Metal Titan Whip indicates it is strong and durable. If you take good care of it, there is no reason the Titan Whip won’t last years. It also means the handle feels solid and secure in your hand when using the whip. These are good qualities in an impact toy, but for people with hand and wrist issues, the weight may not so great.
When you choose a product made of steel, you know it will be much heavier than one made of plastic or some other lightweight material. While the benefits of Sex and Metal’s steel handle are worth it for me, the weight may just be too much for some people. Keep this in mind when shopping.
The Dragons Tongue itself is 22.5″ long, making the entire whip a whopping 31.5″ in length. That’s practically a yard! Storing/hiding a yard’s worth of BDSM gear is not an easy thing for many people to do. Sure, if you’ve got your own dungeon, you’ve no need for concern. Most people are dungeon-free and need to come up with more realistic storage solutions, not to mention those who must worry about the spying eyes of children. You cannot fold the Dragons Tongue in half and pop the Sex and Metal Titan Whip in a drawer, so also take this into account when selecting fall options.
Though I am a huge fan of leather, silicone falls have some great benefits. Silicone is waterproof, hence you don’t have to worry about soaking the Dragons Tongue with sweat and other bodily fluids. You can wash them right off or spritz the Dragons Tongue down with a sex toy cleaner.
Silicone also allows you to add fluids to your play in case you want to lube up your submissive’s back or bottom before whipping them, creating new and different sensations. I would stick with water-based concoctions, as you never know how silicone products will react with one another and you don’t want to end up with a sticky, ruined whip on your hands.
Silicone can also be disinfected by washing it with a 10% bleach solution. This means you can share your Sex and Metal Titan Whip at your local dungeon or play party. Remember though, the Dragons Tongue should be disinfected before it is used on a new person so you don’t unintentionally share any bugs or bacteria.
The Sex and Metal Titan Whip is more extreme than my other BDSM toys, though much of the control over just how extreme comes down to whomever wields the whip. As with all impact toys, play can be gentle or severe, and these parameters should always be discussed and set before anyone gets naked. Safe, sane, and consensual, people.
I know it would be super cool if I posted some images with my body all marked up by the Sex and Metal Titan Whip, but that is not going to happen this time around. Right now, my body cannot tolerate that level of pain. You’ll just have to believe me when I say that the Titan is certainly capable of leaving marks and bruises.
Manipulating the Sex and Metal Titan Whip is not difficult, just different, and takes a bit of acclimation. The challenge may be in learning how to adjust your strength and whip more gently. It seems that using the same amount of force and pressure with the Dragons Tongue as the Mea Culpa Flogger causes more pain. I think if you start out slowly and build up, you won’t have any issues.
The different levels of thickness and rigidity of the Sex and Metal Titan Whip allow you to create different sensations on the body. You can use the tip of the Dragons Tongue to cause sharp, stinging pain, while its more rigid shaft produces a thuddier feeling. It is all based upon how you brandish the Titan Whip.
I am not sure if it is due to being made of silicone as opposed to leather, or if it’s the shape of the fall, but the sound the Sex and Metal Titan Whip makes when striking flesh is unexpectedly LOUD. If you have roommates or nosy neighbors and thin walls, beware. You might need a little cover music during play time unless you want people calling the police to report a domestic violence incident. That would be no fun for anyone.
There is no packaging, per se, for the Sex and Metal Titan Whip. Just as with the Mea Culpa Flogger, it arrived in a plain brown box with absolutely no indication as to what was inside. Within the box, the Titan Whip was protected by a clear plastic bag and cushioned with recyclable brown paper. Nothing fancy, which is totally acceptable. Unless it were to come in some sort of carrying case (which would be awesome but crazy expensive), there is no need for anything but protective shipping materials.
Sex and Metal Titan Whip Pros:
• Handmade and well-crafted
• Creates multiple sensations
• Sturdy and long-lasting
• Washable, high-quality silicone fall
• Can be used with multiple partners (after disinfection)
Sex and Metal Titan Whip Cons:
• No available cleaning and care instructions
• May be too heavy for those with hand and wrist issues
• Silicone Dragons Tongue gets dusty easily
• Storage issues
The Sex and Metal Titan Whip is a unique impact device that is sure to make most experienced kinksters happy. While those with less experience may be intimidated, there really is nothing to fear. It’s all in how you choose to play. The advantage of an implement such as this is that it grows with you instead of you outgrowing it. The quality of the craftsmanship is superb, and aside from my Sex and Metal Mea Culpa Flogger, I have yet to run across higher quality impact toys.
The steel handle and silicone Dragons Tongue is excellent quality, though storage a huge challenge for those of us without dungeons. Of course, I literally had a sex toy avalanche today, so I already have storage problems. My one issue with the silicone fall is that it’s a dust magnet, like many silicone sex toys. Oddly enough, it does not seem to overly attract lint like many toys do.
If you have any concerns due to a lack of hand/wrist strength/pain, definitely consider the weight of the Titan Whip, which is considerable. The twisted strands of steel on the handle do increase gripability (totally a word), which is helpful.
My biggest gripe is actually not with the Sex and Metal Titan Whip itself, but with the lack of available information regarding care and storage. I know I tend to grumble about this, but information is vital to end users, and it is super frustrating when manufacturers don’t understand.
There is nothing on the product page that tells me, or much more importantly, a newbie user, how to clean the silicone fall, that it can (and should) be disinfected between non-fluid bonded players, or that silicone-based products could possibly damage it badly.